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Are there couples out there who intuitively built these types of bonds before they were married, before they were seriously intimate, and then built a long term, loving partnership on that basis? I know there are. I know who some of you are and you have made me turn ten shades of green with envy.
Even though I know of these couples who understood the value of this from day one, we struggled with our power structure from the day we decided we needed to do things differently. I discovered DD-related sites on the internet about five years ago. Was I ignorant! I didn’t know what DD was, what vanilla meant, and HoH might have been a Korean electronics company.
We were really making it up as we went along. Then we found a few like-minded souls, learned some labels, and the process became a lot smoother.
Well it didn’t and it didn’t.
I’d visit a site and read of some people’s practices and my eyes would be out on stalks. I’d laugh nervously (or perhaps mockingly) at things other people did that were just too preposterous to consider.
Louise’s reactions to a lot of what she read here reminded me of myself many years ago, only I wasn’t quite so open about it. I didn’t challenge people. I went off and thought ‘what a bunch of weirdos.’ Then I’d think more and more about what they were doing and even though it might not be what would work for us 100%, we’d talk about the new ideas and often as not, get something from them.